We are all shaped by our experiences, both good and bad. For that reason I wouldn't change a thing. While C takes the cake for having the most bearing on how my relationships are today, there are several other woman out there that whether they know it or not have played a role as well.
My best friend is K. She's not the type I normally go for physically, although I do think she's attractive. She's married now and nothing has ever happened there. I'm glad things are the way they are there. She can be my confidant. Everyone needs a member of the opposite sex they can lean on.
There was my very first gf B. She went to an all girls catholic school and was not the saint I thought the she was. I was young and naive at the time. I lost a bet to her, and the changed my life forever. Next up would be S1. There are many S's in my life. S1 and I had dated for a few years and never ever fought. It was weird. She was almost too nice. She lived back at home while I was away at college. I started to feel it wasn't working and was becoming increasingly interested in someone else who I was quickly becoming friends with. This new girl and I were inseparable at college, but much to everyones surprise nothing ever happened between us. I wanted to make sure that there was a clean break and I didn't want to cheat on S1. That wasn't my style. I also didn't want to break up with S1 on the phone because that's just not right. I waited until I came home for Thanksgiving break. I actually got a ride home with the new girl. I broke up with S1, and that was difficult to do. Long story short, nothing ever happened with new girl. We had a love hate relationship, but I learned a very valuable lesson that I still remember to this day. Email is good for somethings, but there is no guarantee how the recipient will take it. It can be very impersonal, and inflections, connotations, etc are totally left to the interpretation of the recipient. Things not working out with new girl scarred me for a while. I was unwilling to open up to new people.
S2 would be next on the hit parade of people who have shaped my relationships. She knows the secret of the bet with B. She has used that to her advantage and we have had an on again off again relationship since then. This relationship is primarily a physical one and exists as a stronger relationship in her mind then in mine. I have tried to just totally break it off altogether, but I haven't been successful with that. I keep getting pulled back into the trap occasionally. She is very tempting to me. The new girl as mentioned above at one point said that I should sleep with S2. When I told her well, I did the weekend prior became extremely upset. I guess if things were going to work out between her and I, she really didn't want anything to happen with anyone, despite what she may say. S2 and I first were involved in a week of time I like to refer to as my 1st male slut phase. Really it wasn't that bad. Two girls in a week. But for me that is being a male slut. The second girl that week actually was armed with information from S2, but that only ended up being a one night thing, although if S2 didn't get so upset, it may have been more. That's my only one night stand.
I'm not quite sure where L fits into the timeline. She is someone I met online while in college and we've had some good times together. I remember lots of details about my encounters with her, and I don't have a good reason why that is. There have been times when I thought that she was the one, but we haven't spent that much time together. We've always been separated by distance, but have gotten together regardless of distance.
C would fall next into the timeline. See my previous post for information about her. I actually think about or interact with her almost everyday still in some respect. I'm fine with how things are now though, don't get me wrong. She has turned into a very good friend. I find myself going to her more now for advice than K.
J is a girl I met through work while still living with C. C and I weren't sexually active at the time, so while we were dating, nothing was happening. She falls into the same category as the new girl. I think she is attractive, cute, intelligent (most of the time) and very confident. I think a strong confident woman is sexy. There's just an aura about them. She's always smiling always seems to have a good time. Nothing has ever happened with J, we have spent a lot of time together and people keep trying to push us together, but it just hasn't happened yet. I was at one time obsessed with her, but have gotten over that. We have never gone into the hate phase like I did with new girl, but we drift in and out of each others life.
I briefly dated a girl who I met on match. I feel bad about it because I don't think that I ever really gave her a chance. She's attractive, but I never made her a priority in my life, although she was willing to do that for me. She and I still talk and she has found someone wonderful to share her life with. She's definitely better off. I don't know when I'd have the time.
There have been others, but those are the significant ones from the past for now.
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