Yes, I'm OK -- Why do people keep asking?

The inevitable happened. C got engaged recently. I knew that t would happen, and I am really truly happy for her. I wish her and her fiance nothing but the best. What I can't stand is the question that I get when I mention it to people.

Without fail, EVERYONE has asked "Are you OK with it?" The answer has been yes every time. Frankly it's rather annoying to have to answer that question. After the 10th or 15th time, I've wondered what people would say if I responded "No, I'm not OK with it. "

I think that C was pleased at my reaction to the news. She knows that when my friend K got engaged for the first time my response was "Congratulations, but it's not like you're going to marry him." It was one of those things I just felt in my gut that there was something wrong there. A year later, the engagement was off. I never once said "I told you so. "

Honestly, over the years have I wondered what if? Yes. I think that everyone has about a relationship in their life. After wondering though, I realize that everything is good the way it is.

I hope that everything happens the way she wants it to. Unfortunately, a wedding day can be one of the most stressful days of ones life. Everyone has their ideas with what they want your wedding to be like, and often they don't mesh. She's looking for simple. Her mom will want grandiose. After all, it is her only daughter getting married. Knowing what is more than likely coming, I'm advocating an elopement with a celebration back home afterwards. C always joked that she just wanted a pig roast in the backyard.

The last wedding I went to may have been the best out of the 24 I have been to. It was a simple beautiful service on the James River. There were 90-100 people there, and the reception was in the same spot. The bride looked beautiful, and everyone was having a good time.

C will be a beautiful bride. Her fiance is a lucky man. I wish them nothing but the best in the year leading up to the wedding, and the many many years to come.