Outsider looking In

I've been bad at blogging again lately, but it's not for a lack of things to say. I've been exhausted for no good reason lately so the time I've spent on airplanes I've used to sleep, and not write. Hopefully this flight will be different.

This one has ties back to my honesty writing from a while back. Over the past few months I've had the chance to meet/go out with 2 couples where I was friends with the female member, and have two totally different opinions of the state of their relationships. I'll preface this by saying these were both one time meetings, so this is all based on first impressions and only one meeting, but also takes into account other things my friends have said.

The one couple has a set of challenges all their own. Between travel and family obligations, I imagine that at first they had an uphill battle. Seeing this couple together, you can tell that they are into each other. They have that way of interaction between them that you can tell they are happy together. It's that special bond.

I can tell they're in love because of the little things that they do for each other. Going above and beyond to make the most of the time that they have together. I think we all (me especially with my schedule) can take a lesson from them. I wish you could see what I see. It really makes you feel good about relationships.

The second couple I feel differently about. I think that there is a lot of settling going on. From my one meeting, there seemed to be no chemistry and a general lack of communication.

As I said above, I could have been there on a bad day. My presence there didn't help the situation I'm sure. It seems that there is no compromise that takes place. Again, I only hear one side of the story, and I haven't been forthcoming with my opinions here for the reasons above. I really wish another friend of hers who I am friends with would meet him (Hasn't happened yet, but they've been together for over a year) and put my thoughts to rest. I hope I am wrong. I hope that they are happy together, and what I saw was an anomaly, but I fear it's not.

I'm pretty sure both couples met through online dating sites. I've tried my luck at it and haven't had much success. Off the top of my head though, I know at least 3 couples that met and married through them. It makes me wonder what we as a society would be doing if it weren't for online dating sites. I guess going back to the bar scene? I mean how did people used to meet?